Ask Erin | Wedding Etiquette for 2026 and Beyond

by ERIN SHARPLIN LOVE  |  erinlove@panachebyerin.com

When it comes to weddings, I believe the standard rules of etiquette still matter and should still be applied.  However, many brides (and guests) are confused about what is considered proper etiquette and what could be considered a “faux pas.”  With that said, below is a list of the rules that will never go out of style. If you follow these rules you can rest assured that your guests (and you) will feel welcomed, appreciated, and loved. 

1. Always RSVP!  This rule deserves top spot on this list.  RSVP’ing is quickly becoming the most skipped etiquette rule even though it is the most important part of planning a wedding or event.  After all, knowing how many people to expect is imperative to planning a successful event. 

2. Never invite a guest to a pre-wedding party but not the wedding itself.  If done, you may appear callous and as though you are just inviting them to get a gift.  

3. Start the wedding on time.  Try not to make your guests wait past the scheduled hour of the wedding.  I would suggest that ten minutes is the longest you should postpone the start time. 

4. Never list your registry information on your wedding invitation.  You should have a wedding website that lists all pertinent information for your guests.  

5. Even though evites are easier and less costly, it is not in good taste to send them to a wedding guest. You should mail a professionally printed invitation instead.   Furthermore, the invitations should be mailed no less than six weeks in advance. Eight weeks is even better. 

6. Please don’t make your guests pay for their drinks.  If you are on a budget, you can skip alcoholic beverages altogether or limit the type of alcohol (wine and beer only, for instance) and you can also limit the amount.  When it is gone, it’s gone.

7. Don’t forget about your vendors!  You should make accommodations so they are able to take a break and eat. 

8. Try your best to greet all of your guests.  They took the time to attend the wedding and to show you their support; it is only appropriate that they receive a proper “hello” and “thank you for coming.”

9. If you require an RSVP, please include postage on the return envelope. 

10. If someone gives you a gift you must send them a handwritten thank-you note.  No ifs, ands, or buts, please!

11. If your children’s names are not listed on the invitation, they are not invited.  Do not ask the couple if you can bring them because they will feel obliged to say yes.  Take the opportunity to have a wonderful evening with your partner sans children.

12. On that same note…if your invitation does not list “and guest” you are to attend the wedding solo.

13. Always arrive to the ceremony ten minutes early! It is not okay to arrive to a wedding ceremony late. You can disrupt the entire event.

14. Leave cellphones in the car for the ceremony especially. If you must have it with you, please turn the ringer off.  

15. Never wear white to a wedding.  Yes,  this rule still applies;  On the other hand, black is okay. 

16. As a guest, you should never post pictures of the bride and groom on social media.  Allow them to post what they want the world to see. 

17. Brush up on your dining etiquette before attending a reception.  Especially if you will be treated to a seated dinner.

18. And, finally, never get drunk! Limit your alcohol intake to one or two beverages and drink plenty of water. Creating a lasting memory is a great thing unless you are being remembered for how wasted you were.  

So, what do you think?  Did you realize that many of the tried-and-true etiquette rules still applied? I am happy to share more with you if needed! Just send me an email and I will get back with you – erinlove@panachebyerin.com